Self-medicating since preschool.

Blog author, Melinda M. Schmuck, says, “Looking back, I was a textbook case of undiagnosed ADHD in a girl. I had been self-medicating, treating my symptoms with distractions, since pre-school.”


My earliest memory of “hyperfocus” was in grade school. I had grown bored of whatever the lesson was, had completed the worksheets, and was sneaking a book under my desk.

Suddenly I looked up and the whole room was empty. Not a single person was there.

An entire classroom, all the kids in the class, the teacher, the aide, everyone, had all gone to lunch, as I sat there, alone.

I remember the panic feeling. My cheeks burned with embarrassment. How many of the kids must have looked at me as they walked past? Did anyone even try to get my attention? How long had I been sitting there? What should I do now?

Hot, sharp tears of anger welled up in my eyes. I was angry at myself.

Why couldn’t I just pay attention? Why couldn’t I just sit like the rest of them? What was wrong with me? How did an entire classroom of people suddenly become invisible to me? I sure as hell wasn’t invisible to them as they all walked past me; the only one who didn’t get up! The girl with the book in her lap. They probably nudged each other and pointed at me. One tear escaped the corner of my eye and ran down my cheek. NO! No no no no! Now I would be the girl who missed lunch then cried??!

I shoved my book into my desk and rushed to the bathroom. I hid there for awhile, until I could hear that the lunch room had emptied and everyone was going outside for recess. I joined them outside as if nothing had happened. I was hungry and terrified that I would have to explain myself to someone. But nobody ever said a word to me. Even as we lined up and filed back into the classroom I waited for a snicker or a look, but nothing. Not a single person said a word, not even the teacher.

The rest of the day dragged on. My stomach rumbled from missing lunch. Every few minutes the thought of the book would pop into my head, causing a knot in my chest, and the burning in my cheeks to return. The thoughts that I was different raced through my head. Not only was I different, I also didn’t fit in or matter. I was alone. It seemed like everyone else had a friend. Where was mine? Where was the person who would have kicked me to get up? Or asked me what I was doing? Or where I was at lunch? 

As an adult I get it. I was quiet. It was easy for the teacher to pass over me as I sat with my head down, obviously not paying attention, but not interrupting her either. And I was doing well. My grades were great. I wasn’t a problem. I was just doing my own thing, teaching myself. I didn’t need her, and she didn’t need to stop the entire class to screw up her own flow over a quiet kid who was getting better grades than most the class.

It was easy for my friends to walk past me, because they were used to seeing me doing things differently than the other kids. All the kids were used to seeing me sit at my desk, trying to finish one last paragraph, in a totally different book than the class was reading. I always put the book down when I was ready, and made it into the line of people heading to lunch.

I was a silent rebel. I wasn’t disrespectful, but I did what I wanted. I was impulsive but in a weirdly appropriate way. I wasn’t missed  because I wasn’t a person who ever went missing. It wasn’t unusual to not see me at lunch. I could have been at a different table, or down in the band room practicing, or in some kind of spelling bee meeting. I was always doing different things.

To an outsider it looked like I was a high achiever. Independent. Smart. Strong.

On the inside, I needed the activities to keep me from going crazy. I wasn’t trying to grow through those things, I was trying to distract myself. I was in a hundred different places because I couldn’t tolerate being in just one.

In a way, at an early age I was already self medicating and finding tools and strategies to deal with the insatiable discomfort I felt inside.

I wasn’t rebelling in the way I had seen other kids in my class rebel. I was a silent rebel. I wasn’t talking out of turn, I wasn’t throwing fits and flipping over desks. I wasn’t making fun of my classmates or causing trouble. I was a silent rebel. I did assignments out of order, I read ahead in books, I found ways to make things interesting, like I’d start from the end of a spelling test and work it backwards. I joined band, and spelling bees, and reading clubs, and any other thing that would allow me to be one of the special kids who got to leave the classroom for a while.

I didn’t so much want to be in the spelling bee or band as much as I just wanted out of the classroom. I was a talented musician because I sat in hyperfocus for hours at a time practicing paradiddles and slow rolls. The rhythm felt good in my brain. I was great at spelling because of all the reading I did. The reading kept my thoughts from racing.

Looking back, I was a textbook case of undiagnosed ADHD in a girl.

I had been self-medicating, treating my symptoms with distractions, since pre-school.

As my story progressed it took becoming an adult to finally pull the symptoms to the front where someone noticed them. My jack of all trades, master of none lifestyle wasn’t working anymore.

So what does one do in this situation?

Stop letting your preschool-self medicate you.


Then, start a blog, of course.

Do not, under any circumstances do what I did!!

Don’t do what?

Don’t graduate law school, get married, have a baby, take the bar exam, start a law firm, and become a realtor, and move your 94 year old grandma in with you, all in a span of about two years.

Why shouldn’t you do that?

That is the solution your pre-school self would come up with.

You will find yourself on the verge of a nervous breakdown and finally go to a therapist who will tell you to quit your law firm, and bury the real estate license for awhile.

So what should you do?

First, ask for help!

Then, keep reading books, play some music, huff some essential oils, find a great workout program, eat healthy foods, and do whatever it takes to stay out of the common working population.

Pray a whole lot and understand that yes, you are different. You are wonderfully different. You are a person who was designed to be free and your soul will not stop hurting until you find that freedom.

It kind of sucks. It’s painful. But the methods you have used since preschool to get relief from the pain you feel inside are not going to serve you into adulthood. Trust me. I tried it.

6 thoughts on “Self-medicating since preschool.”

  1. You are the best for writing and sharing this! This was me to a T, as a child. I’ve since found many tools to help me through, and seeing my son struggling with it has given me great insight as well. Thank you 1,000 time for sharing. 💓


  2. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 37. I completely relate to your story. I still have trouble taking the meds they prescribed on time!


    1. Haha I know, right?! I get by with an occasional adderall now, but for a year I went through the same thing. Forget the meds, get all the way to my office, and then either struggle bus my way through or waste the time to go back and get my lifeline. Now that I eat healthy and exercise though I only take an adderall or two when I know I will need to really buckle down. I swear by my vetiver oil and also by drinking tea all day when I am working.


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